Specialties
Intersectionality
Anxiety
Depression
Racial Trauma
Helping people to stand tall on the roots of their identity in pursuit of personal growth
Intersectionality/ Diversity - Intersect whaaa???
Say it with me people.
Inter...section...ality! BOOM! Let me break it down.
Not only are you working hard in your career as an educator, artist, or business owner, but you are also a partner, student, parent, sibling, child, employee/colleague, etc. Now let’s say that you’re black, white, asian, indigenous or multiracial. Next, lets add the fact that you are queer. There it is, intersectionality. All of these multifaceted parts coming together to make you the amazing person that you are.
Your whole life you have been fed images, picked up on inferences and directives to be more like the “norm.” You’re consistently given feedback that you are something “other than” what you should be. To confuse matters even further, you’re not even sure what you think about yourself!
If you would like to have a safe space where someone will give you free reign to be heard and seen with the respect and dignity that you deserve then let’s chat. You will be supported, encouraged, and challenged to be and express your true self unabashedly.
Anxiety - The enticing spiral down the rabbit hole of “what if’s”
We live in a time where perfection is demanded, competition is fierce, and understanding and compassion from others is minimal. You’re expected to excel in your career, be an upstanding parent, a desirable partner, and the most available friend, child, and sibling. These aren’t realistic expectations, but nonetheless they exist.
Coping with the assumption that we can be ALL things to EVERYONE is hard. But you really want to be able to accomplish just that.
You find yourself trying to think and plan ahead to make things as smooth as possible. You multitask all day long and try your best to follow your rigid schedule. You’re moving as fast as you can, but your mind is always faster with the next thing that needs to be done, the next place you need to be, or the next phone call you have to make.
You aren’t yourself, and you know it. You’ve become snappy with your loved ones. You’re not present. You are missing out on actual life.
You know this can’t go on, but you can’t figure out a way or a time to stop.
It’s no wonder you're anxious. This is a really hard way to live. Let’s work on a way to slow things down, and allow for you to participate in your life. Let’s get you to a place where you feel like you are in charge of life's demands, rather than life being demanding of you.
Take a deep breath, you got this.
Depression - the land of “yesterday’s”
If you had only made the decision other than the one you already made, life would have been...well...perfect! Thoughts of “shoulda, coulda, woulda’s” flood your brain as you’re brought to a halt in the imaginary race of life.
Now you’re stuck, because you don’t trust yourself, or those around you. You feel like you’re failing at everything you want to succeed at. You’re isolated, unmotivated, hurt, scared, and paralyzed at the thought of ever making any mistakes ever again. You haven’t the energy or any idea of where to begin in an effort to get better. You’ve become “sometimey” or “wishy-washy” about making plans with friends and family because you just can’t commit. You aren’t enjoying life anymore, you're just going through the motions.
This is depression. It’s an experience that alters the way you see yourself and the world around you. It’s debilitating, and seeps into all corners of life. In a way, things seem to have lost all their shine.
It’s time for you to call a spade a spade, you’re not fine.
Let’s work together to find out how you can be best supported through this difficult time. We’ll find ways to reaffirm your self- esteem, and self concept. I want to give you the time and space to feel what you’re feeling, as you come to an understanding of what’s going on. If you’re ready to discover new ways of implementing self care, and exploring methods to cope with your depression as it happens, reach out today.
Racial Trauma
Race is a factor that needs to be considered in how a person processes emotions, and interactions differently. This processing leads to different ways people learn to behave as a method of self protection, self actualization, and self compassion.
Not all people of colour want to talk about their racial trauma or process it, or even shed light on it in their therapeutic process. THAT’S OK! You don’t have to! But for those who do, I think it’s important that you know about a place where it is possible, and that’s with me. I am a therapist that will recognize, include, and help you to process racial trauma in a safe and respectful way.
